I am Emerald May (she/her), an international Embodied Sex, Intimacy & Breathwork coach, and Certified Sexological Bodyworker™, driven by a deep commitment of self-discovery, empowerment, and transformation. My personal journey is a testament to the power of embracing vulnerability, accepting oneself, and finding the courage to live authentically. Rooted Pleasure is a client led, trauma-informed space providing intimacy and sexual wellness coaching, support, education and guidance for disconnected folks and parents to authentically root into themselves and lovingly reconnect with their partner(s), whilst courageously raising the next generation.
I've not always been like that though, like all of us, my own experience led me on a path of self-discovery and to where I am today, now walking alongside my clients and shining the light.
Even though I am a certified Sex, Intimacy & Breathwork Coach, I know what it’s like to struggle with feeling disconnected from myself and not knowing who I am, or even that I am allowed to have my own needs and desires, without feeling guilty, outside of being a parent…
I know what it’s like to wake up and feel despair, because in 2013, that struggle consumed my life.
I was going to be stuck in the monotony of the daily grind of parenting a young family, without a supportive nourishing partnership with myself or anyone else. I felt so disembodied and disconnected from my own pleasure, I didn’t know what turned me on anymore, nor did I have the energy, or feel safe enough to get curious…
I know what it’s like to lay down at night, feeling numbness and shame for avoiding intimacy with my husband, and thinking about having to get up and do the same thing all over again tomorrow. It got so bad that my husband had an affair, he and I separated, I got even smaller, and turned the anger and frustration on myself.
So I know how painful it can be.
I also know how good a sex-life worth wanting can feel.
BecauseI know what it’s like to be on the other side of it.
To be able to know, value and voice my needs and desires without guilt or shame, and to live a life where I wake up feeling empowered to create the life and partnerships I want. I have a healthier relationship with myself, my children’s father, and I go to bed at night feeling gratitude for my choices and feeling of aliveness.
“To love someone is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be, and a thousand births of the person they are becoming”
Heidi Priebe and Anon
The best part is my new partner and I get to be and love our authentic selves, whilst also receiving love in the ways that are nourishing for both of us, without obligation or people pleasing, and remaining in integrity with our individual and shared values. And sometimes these values, and what turns us on shifts. As someone who lives with mental health challenges, I never stop working on the relationship I have with myself and with others, and we continue to adapt in the present moment.
And, I want this kind of life for everyone! That’s why I do the work that I do.
Life is too short to spend it disconnected from your authenticity, your pleasure and merely exist in dissatisfying relationships with yourself or others. I’d be honored to support you (or someone you care about) to live a more authentic, connected, and pleasure-filled life!
Are you ready to work with me?
Book your 45 minute Disconnected to Deeply Loving Strategy Call.
During this 45 minute call you will have the opportunity to feel heard, receive at least 3 strategies to support you on your journey, and an optional follow up email summarising what we discussed.
There is no hard sell, it is an opportunity to practice receiving, and to see if we are a good fit to work together.